The Beginnings of my Soul Journey

So you're probably wondering how I went from a ball of anxiety to optimism and sunshine. Well it's a bit of an underwhelming story. I was working for a company that, try as it might, was trying to change the company culture. They hired a company culture alignment specialist (Phil Alison: https://www.corporate-edge.com.au/staff/phil-allison/) and for three hours he spoke and we listened.

He explained that a company was only strong if each individual staff member was working towards the same goal, regardless of their departmental goals. He spoke about how one disgruntled member of staff, a red dot as he called it, could bring down a company. This was all pretty cool stuff in terms of my work mindset. My department, as was most in the company, was pretty disillusioned. We ran on auto pilot and it didn't matter if things were done well, just as long as they were done.

He then moved onto personal development, a field I had never really ventured into. The thing that struck me the most was he introduced the 20-minute rule into my life. Phil explained that the first 20 minutes when you return home doesn’t belong to you, it belongs to your family. It belongs to your kids so you can listen to their stories of the day. It belongs to your spouse so you can hear all about their trials and successes. It belongs to the cat/dog/rabbit that has waited all day for you to return. Those 20 minutes are all about connection and service. It was about showing your family that you are present and that you love them.

I'm the first to say I'm addicted to not being present. I'm on my phone, I'm day dreaming about the future or mentally self-flagellating myself about the past. It's been a stumbling road, but that was the day I decided I wanted to do better. I wanted to shift, I wanted to move, I wanted to feel better without the need of sugar or fast food. My goal was to figure out what would make me happy in life and I can honestly say that since I made that my focus I've felt so much more fulfilled.

So that's it really in a nutshell.

If you've made it this far, thanks! I started this blog to detail my soul journey and to help others start their own journey so that they can build the life that they want. If you're gearing up to make a change leave me a comment below and let me know what your catalyst moment was!

A great article I listened to on the Optimal Living Daily podcast about this was 3 Ways People Become Stuck, Undeveloped, and Unsuccessful by Benjamin Hardy. I highly recommend you giving it a go if you want to learn about how people progress on their own soul journey’s and what to do if you feel like your growth is stalling.

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