Retrain My Brain With YouTube - A Six Part Series

Retrain My Brain With YouTube - A Six Part Series - Day Two

I've set a goal. It's not a big goal or particularly difficult, but I have a habit of quitting what I try to start so I thought if I wrote it all down I would push through.

If you haven't read Day One of this series click here!

I listen to a lot of positivity and self-motivational videos, talks and podcasts, but this video hit hard to home. I like to believe everyone is on a journey and I'm at this point in mine where I believe, like truly believe, I deserve happiness and success. I deserve to work hard at something and actually complete it. I deserve to not abandon a project once it starts going well because I'm afraid of success or don't feel I'm worthy of success.

So I made a commitment sitting on the floor of my office meditation/prayer room: I would listen to this video every day for 6 more days. I wanted to see if it would penetrate my consciousness and if the messages would ingrain themselves in my mind. I'll post my updates and may even do a vlog about my experience and how this impacts my soul journey.

Day Two - Sunday:

I listened to the video this morning on the train as I ventured into the city to meet a close friend. The message that stood out for me today was the concept of what follows your 'I Am'.

Some of my negative ‘I Am’ statements:

I am so forgetful

I am such a mess

I am not good at math

I am alone in the world

I'm trying to pay attention to my 'I Am' statements and unintentionally I'm listening to the 'I Am' statements of others. We can be so hard on ourselves. We don’t realise it, but we disregard ourselves before we've even stepped up to the plate and swing the bat.

Last night I forgot to set an alarm, so this morning I woke up at the time I was meant to leave the house. I instantly started in on myself. I was ruthless as I rushed around throwing together an outfit and checking the train schedule. It may have already happened this morning, but I’m now rewrite my 'I Am's and give myself a break. I wasn't stupid. I wasn't always doing the wrong thing. In the future I’m going to remind myself that this negative thing actually has no bearing on me or my life in the grand scheme of things.

It's hard to go out into the world and thrive when you're constantly telling yourself that you're a colossal fuck up. Imagine if you did that to someone else. Imagine if other people could hear the way you talk to yourself.

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